hardships

Memorial Candle for Aunt Farlene–RIP

I’m writing this blog about my Aunt Farlene. Yes, I’m going to dedicate this blog piece to her. She has been one of the strong women that you can count on to help you with many things. She has helped many family members by putting food on the table; furnishing clothing, and providing shelter through different means. She is a dependable woman that she’d drop everything and go to help somebody.

Aunt Farlene whose real name is Mary Hoyle has been through many hardships herself, and she has come out a stronger woman. She has four children through several marriages to two men. Two of her children are deceased, an oldest named Jimmy who had died from an automobile accident and another son named Henry Jr whose death has has been undetermined in 1989.

Aunt Farlene has faced many challenges and she has risen above each challenge as she endures each hardship. What a lady she was?

One may wonder why I write about her at this time. It is 11 years ago on July 22, 2002 that she was murdered by her ex-husband who feared that he’d be “homeless” or a vagabond. He had feared he he’d be put out as a homeless. Well, that was really such a excuse of cowardice for a murder. It’s so despicable! He could have just gone to a housing authority and ask about getting cheap housing and be on the waiting list for the “Section-8” housing.

Well, truthfully; pride got in the way. He has guns lying all over his wife’s house that she owned. Her previous husband, Henry Sr. has built it. Warren has cirrhosis of the liver that has caused him to lose a lot of weight and had to be fed pureed food. Aunt Farlene has brought him back to health with the labor of love. So what thanks did she get for bringing him to his health? Gunshots! Anyway; Warren is in prison without parole for forty years. He has 28 years to go to think about what he’d done. I just hope he’d regret what he’d done. He’d not only destroyed the woman he’d loved, he’d destroyed the family. He has taken away the wife, the mother, the sister, the aunt, the cousin, and the friend.

Yes, it has been very difficult for us to cope. I’m slowly coping with the fact that Aunt Farlene is in Heaven now with the Cosmic Guidance, I take comfort in that. I know that the family has grown apart due to bitterness, resentment and greed which is so sad and I’m praying that someday that they will reconcile their differences. One second cousin has already reconciled with us and I was very glad for that for she has chosen to put the past behind and move forward. Here I am, writing this in memory of my aunt who’s the woman of courage. I’m coping now and I know it’s sad. But I pray that the others will be comforted by this.

Yes, Aunt Farlene is a woman of courage. She is dependable person who’ll reach out to hug somebody who’s hurting. She’d drop everything in her hands and go to pick up somebody who is in distress. She is the one who does her best by keeping her family together even though her kids have disagreements over petty things.

This is what I wanted to say about Aunt Farlene. She is a wonderful woman. I’m sure that she has accepted the Messiah (or maybe rededicated her life to) just a few short months before the murder. She has taken Grandma Penny to church every Sunday morning and she stays with her to worship the Lord and learn of the Word of God. YHVH knows what He is doing with her. I believe that He has led her to go back to church thus bringing back another “Progical Daughter” to Himself. God is perfect in His Timing.

Yes, It is sad when the life is cut short due to senselessness, but I choose to reflect on the fact that Aunt Farlene has a smile on her face when she sees Yeshua after all the pain are washed away in the blink of an eye.

Well, that is about it for now. May you be comforted in your loss of your loved ones as well.